The Secret That Would Save Every Marriage

The following story reveals the secret that would save every marriage. If we knew it and lived it, our relationships would shine brightly and reflect the harmony and love we all intended. The chronicle of Bob and Jane is the story of all of us who have been in a relationship for an extended period. Challenging times in our relationships may be inevitable due to our humanness, but the ending is ours to write.

Bob and Jane had been married for 10 years, and both were miserable in the relationship. There was very little affection or warmth in their interactions, and their lives together had become nothing more than a monotonous routine. Jane thought that Bob was no longer interested in her and she was often disappointed by the lack of emotional connection. She wanted so much more and complained to him often about his lack of effort to connect with her and the distance between them. Bob thought that Jane had become a nagging wife and nothing he did seemed good enough for her, so he had stopped trying. They both had a vague recollection of connection and love for each other at the beginning of the relationship and wondered how their marriage had deteriorated to this point. 

One day Bob was fed up with Jane’s nagging and left the house for a walk. He thought to himself, “I can’t stand being around her any longer. How did this happen? God, please help me! ” All of a sudden a voice from out of nowhere said, “This is God and I will help you. I will slowly transform your wife into a beautiful Goddess with exquisite inner and outer beauty. She will radiate love and joy and you will have the most extraordinary relationship. However, there is one condition. You must focus only on the Divine emerging in her and treat her as I would treat my beloved Goddess.” Bob was elated, “Yes! Yes! If you will transform her then I will do just as you say.”  When Bob returned home he went immediately to the bedroom door and stared at Jane as she was doing her hair, hoping that some change had already occurred. He was looking intently for the Goddess qualities to appear. While he didn’t notice a great change yet, except her hair did seem a bit more radiant, his excitement about the future caused him to smile from ear to ear. Through the mirror Jane could see Bob smiling and staring at her and she thought, “Wow, this is different. He’s looks interested in me.” Before leaving the doorway Bob made a brief comment about the shine of her hair. Later that evening Jane caught Bob looking pleasantly at her again just before bed and she wondered about this renewed attention.

The next day Jane woke up feeling better and placed a note in Bob’s briefcase that read, “I appreciate all that you do. Have a wonderful day!”  At work Bob found the note in his briefcase and was stunned. “God is working fast,” he thought, and then wondered “How would God treat his beloved?” He emailed Jane at her work to tell her not to worry about cooking tonight because he was going to take care of it. Jane could hardly believe this change in Bob, and after reading the email she was glowing with happiness. Bob rushed home early and cooked one of Jane’s favorite dishes before she arrived. As Jane entered she saw the dinner prepared and was filled with gratitude. Bob looked at her as if seeing her for the first time. He could see miraculous changes already! She looked radiant, gorgeous, and Bob could actually see a dazzling glow about her. They had a romantic dinner with stimulating conversations as if they had just met, and afterward a night of unbridled passion in the bedroom. Jane lay awake in bed pondering the recent events, “God, thank you for transforming Bob into a Divine husband. But pleeeeeease make this last.” A clear voice from the heavens replied, “This is God and I will make his transformation eternal, but there is one condition. You must focus only on the Divine in him and treat him as I would treat my beloved.” Jane was ecstatic, “If you make him stay this way then yes, of course I will!”  

Each day following was similar, as they both found ways to uplift and appreciate the other. Occasionally they encountered friction, but with the commitment to seeing only the Divine in their partner and to treat each other as God would, the matters quickly dissolved. They continued to live the relationship of their dreams for years, and one day, as Bob was basking in the glory, he said, “God, you did a fantastic job of transforming her into a Goddess. Thank you.” God replied, “You are welcome but I didn’t transform her at all. She was always Divine and so were you. I simply reminded you both of who you truly are.”